I have desired to write this to you for some time now.
I've seen so many of you hurt and lonely. Longing for a love that is true and real.
Longing for someone who will dance with you in the rain, and comfort and hold you when you need to be.
Today seemed like it was finally the time. I hope that you'll hear me out.
Many thoughts I had in my single years were "Oh, how I can't wait until the day I meet my prince Charming" I have often wondered what he looked like, whether or not he plays guitar, and how deep our love will be for each other! I had no idea what he looked like, but I would have an image of him in my mind and imagine us walking on the beach together side by side.. And I Sighed and cried over those sappy love movies and I would just get restless. I wanted a man to appreciate and love me. I was an over the top lady in waiting.. More like "Lady in desperation!
Putting so much of my thoughts in romance, I kind of lost patience in waiting.. All of my fellow waiting partners ditched me because they had boyfriends and dates. I grew tired and because of my restlessness I decided to participate in dating websites.. (Not recommended ) It was so impersonal in my experience. I had men randomly write me and tell me how beautiful I was, and I just had an unpleasant feeling inside with each letter I received. I quickly deleted my account. I was around eight teen and a pity party was thrown for myself and the only population there was, was me and my tears.. Growing old and alone was honestly my biggest fear at the moment!
I thought married people thought I was a child because I wasn't married or had a boy friend and unfortunately some adults even treated me that way. But my whole outlook on single life changed after I read this book called "Lady in waiting" by Donna L. Mihura. And in this book I came across this very much encouraging poem called "The single gift" And I would like to share it with you today.
"The Single Gift"
How blessed you are, you single one,
Don't talk of care and woes.
You've got too much to be thankful for,
Oh what, you'd like to know.
It's no mistake, no misdirection
Of God's perfect plan
That you've not found your special lady
Or you, that certain man.
God loves you so and has much more
To give then you've ever received.
That He's giving His best to you right now,
You really must believe.
His best is Himself, do you have it in full
Or only a bit on the side?
No man can meet your needs like God,
Nor can a lovely bride.
If your life's not complete, you know that Jesus is
And your life He will fill
If you'll only put Him first each day
And live to do His will.
He's gifted you for undistracted
Devotion to the Lord.
There should be nothing that can interfere
With Him and prayer and the Word.
Unless you let down the guard of your heart
And let others take His place,
Then you'll lack joy and peace and hope
And not experience His grace.
So give your heart right back to God,
Let Him keep it safe for you.
And when it's better then His best,
He'll make your one into two.
I must say I was quite blown after reading this! I prayed for God to use me in every situation and I thanked Him for every blessing.. And that day singleness became one of them. So I completely desired to dedicate my single years to Jesus. I fully gave my heart to God and trusted Him to do the rest. Of course I still desired a husband but Jesus has given me a love that no other man could replace.. So, I was no longer a lady in waiting. I was a lady in love, a lady in patience. I have made a commitment to only be involved with one man, and to not play these useless dating games the world finds important. I made the commitment to only date one man and to marry one man.. Yes, I found interests in some men but I would not date them unless I was one hundred percent sure this man was mine. Some would think that was crazy.. But I am very glad that I did it! because I only have romantic memories with one man. And yes, men came in disguise and tried to step in as my man to be.. But God always gave me every warning saying "This man would not take your heart seriously and would not cherish you.. Until one day when I was walking I noticed a very handsome man working for the church... I honestly couldn't help but pursue him because I could just feel the love for God he had in his heart.. And as weeks went by, God has revealed to me in so many ways that this man was the one for me... And it wasn't before long when this gentleman came to my father and received permission to take his daughter out for her first date!
lately, you have been on my heart and I just to tell you that I know how you feel, because I've been there.
May I encourage you today?
I'm not asking you to do what I did.. Because each one of us are called to do different things. But I am asking you to be wise with your singleness and to see all the blessings there is in being single.. Be captivated in the love of Jesus. Let Him have your heart, every dream and desire. Because He wants to give you His best. You just have to wait on His perfect timing.
Please, please-- don't settle for the worlds silly dating games but trust God that He already has someone for you that will cherish you. And when the man that God has for you arrives, continue to keep Jesus #1, always. Because though the man God has for you is perfect for you, doesn't mean he's perfect as a human.. None of us are perfect. And as one of my favorite authors whom I admire not only as a writer but as a wife as well Ruth Bell Graham says :
“It is a foolish woman who expects her husband to be to her that which
only Jesus Christ Himself can be: always ready to forgive, totally
understanding, unendingly patient, invariably tender and loving,
unfailing in every area, anticipating every need, and making more than
adequate provision. Such expectations put a man under an impossible
strain”
As a married woman, I am not looking down at you, or thinking you are a looser because you are not married yet. In fact, I admire and encourage you as day by day, you're waiting for God's best! And that my love should be treasured!
If you've made mistakes in the past, it is never too late to start over.. God is so amazing and full of love and grace and He can wash over you and make you pure again.. It doesn't matter how many mistakes you've made God is always willing to forgive and make you whole again in righteousness.. He is the God of second chances. And if you are still waiting... Be patient...The world may tell you it's not worth it, it's too risky.. And that you should test the car before you buy it.. But trust me, You don't need a test drive because God works everything together for His good!
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
Don't settle for anything that is not God's best.... Because that's exactly what He wants to give you.. Please, be patient and you will not regret it!
I write to you today because I want you to enjoy this life of singleness and to not let opportunities and blessings pass you by! And I also don't want you to get hurt or harmed by these useless dating games or men that take advantage of priceless rubies. Why? Because I love you! Praying for you ladies and I hope your day is blessed.
Happy Monday Ladies!!
.My emotional
status went from being discouraged to loved immediately.. How blessed
am I to have a husband that doesn't love me for my actions! It takes a
huge load off my chest.. In two months of marriage we have learned so
much about each other. We have discovered each others pet peeves, and
have even had a few disagreements. But in those two months of marriage
along with premarital counseling. God has shown us and taught us how to
love each other and to honor one another. And God has given us the true
definition of love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
